finding balances
Nov. 14th, 2022 08:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ianukLast week was hard. Emotionally/brainwise I'm very scattered. I've been a lump on the couch and not motivated to do much of anything. Mel left for a kung fu tourney on Thursday so I was single mom all weekend. Benton was good. he had school off on Friday while I still had work. He got a full video game day which he enjoyed. I had a massage where joeseph worked on my neck and my jaw. oof. This caused rebound headaches all weekend which is okay but ugh. I hate that. Like Saturday I woke up in so much pain I had to heat pack and then it was fine but ugh. Better today even though last night was a bit annoying and nothing was helping the headache. Stress and needing more sleep is what I needed.
Saturday after I dealt with the headache from hell I went tolferion's dad's memorial. It was an odd memorial for a brilliant but odd man. There were tears and laughter and somberness and that is what memorials are for. I was happy that we got to spend time with him at holidays as he was always an invited guest after his wife passed. If you are interested: William G. Tifft and Obituary
Benton did not attend with me but funerals make him uncomfortable which I compeletely understand and we talked about it very well and about why his feelings are valid and he sent along hugs for the family. We did not attend the after thing for the same reason. Too many people he doesn't know and I completely get that. We did have a nice dinner with Ari though and then she and I had drinks and snuggled up on teh couch watching GBBO and Drink Masters. It was very nice to get BFF time.
Sunday we had breakfast with mom at Joes. Things to know about my mom that I never did is that she really likes pancakes and bacon. She ate more than Benton but he was out of sorts and tired. But it was a nice time but I dont know what to talk about and while this has always been a problem with mel gone it was up to me to keep the convo going and yeah....oh well at least the food was good and the coffee hot. anyone else have nothing to talk with their parents about?
Got home from Breakfast and benton went to lay down. I think we are in the tired and grumpy part of a growth spurt. I let him hang in his room and tidied up the kitchen, the front room a bit and then sat down with knitting and a movie. I never touched my knitting...brain is so scattered I forgot but watched the first part of Enola Holmes 2 before my situational/secondhand embarrassment hit and then I started watching the School for Good and Evil and OMG Charlize Theron just had so much fun. Actually all of the A-list actors did and it was a fun romp and a neat story. Then Benton and I got hooked on watching Bureau of Magical Things which is super cute and not a lot of drama but a cute kids show. Its the balm we both needed. He did some cool lego stuff, I chillaxed and I got dinner in the oven but it took forever. I put sausage in a pumpkin and cooked it with spices and panko on top. Not too bad but these pumpkins were thin skinned and I would have preferred more flesh like when I do this with acorn squash. But it was nice.
Mel got home from the tourney about 8pm, was very happy to have dinner ready and then we chatted and had beers till late catching up on things. He won his division and the school did really well. He's going to judge next year since for him this is an easy competition to win at the advance level and age bracket even though it was 20+ people in it. 30 years of sword fighting has helped him excel. LOL
On the book front I'm still in Escape from Yokai Land...I'm about 70% complete. I just didn't feel like reading this weekend and that is okay. Still working on teh 38th book of the year. I only managed to read 21 last year so this is way better.
Saturday after I dealt with the headache from hell I went to
lferion's dad's memorial. It was an odd memorial for a brilliant but odd man. There were tears and laughter and somberness and that is what memorials are for. I was happy that we got to spend time with him at holidays as he was always an invited guest after his wife passed. If you are interested: William G. Tifft and Obituary Benton did not attend with me but funerals make him uncomfortable which I compeletely understand and we talked about it very well and about why his feelings are valid and he sent along hugs for the family. We did not attend the after thing for the same reason. Too many people he doesn't know and I completely get that. We did have a nice dinner with Ari though and then she and I had drinks and snuggled up on teh couch watching GBBO and Drink Masters. It was very nice to get BFF time.
Sunday we had breakfast with mom at Joes. Things to know about my mom that I never did is that she really likes pancakes and bacon. She ate more than Benton but he was out of sorts and tired. But it was a nice time but I dont know what to talk about and while this has always been a problem with mel gone it was up to me to keep the convo going and yeah....oh well at least the food was good and the coffee hot. anyone else have nothing to talk with their parents about?
Got home from Breakfast and benton went to lay down. I think we are in the tired and grumpy part of a growth spurt. I let him hang in his room and tidied up the kitchen, the front room a bit and then sat down with knitting and a movie. I never touched my knitting...brain is so scattered I forgot but watched the first part of Enola Holmes 2 before my situational/secondhand embarrassment hit and then I started watching the School for Good and Evil and OMG Charlize Theron just had so much fun. Actually all of the A-list actors did and it was a fun romp and a neat story. Then Benton and I got hooked on watching Bureau of Magical Things which is super cute and not a lot of drama but a cute kids show. Its the balm we both needed. He did some cool lego stuff, I chillaxed and I got dinner in the oven but it took forever. I put sausage in a pumpkin and cooked it with spices and panko on top. Not too bad but these pumpkins were thin skinned and I would have preferred more flesh like when I do this with acorn squash. But it was nice.
Mel got home from the tourney about 8pm, was very happy to have dinner ready and then we chatted and had beers till late catching up on things. He won his division and the school did really well. He's going to judge next year since for him this is an easy competition to win at the advance level and age bracket even though it was 20+ people in it. 30 years of sword fighting has helped him excel. LOL
On the book front I'm still in Escape from Yokai Land...I'm about 70% complete. I just didn't feel like reading this weekend and that is okay. Still working on teh 38th book of the year. I only managed to read 21 last year so this is way better.
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Date: 2022-11-15 02:08 pm (UTC)Yeah, I have no idea what to talk to parents about. You don't need advice about your no-longer-an-infant child and you don't have "what happened at school today?" conversations around a too-small table, so let's talk about ... uh ... home repairs, I guess.
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